niomi

I know things about not fucking so people are asking me how I feel about 4B.

Unless South Korean 4B women want to offer guidance, yall interested in sex strike need your own terms. Don’t risk talking over 4B women. You can call it Lysistrata! just because I love greek names, don’t mind me.

There is indeed a relationship between toxic and horny men and me not fucking anybody in over 5 years. So people are coming to me with questions.

Fucking has never been very important to me, but I wasn’t repulsed by it at first. I was fine with doing it for someone I loved, or to brag about with my peers. Yet with post-nut clarity my sex partners realized they were pity fucked. And so in spite of having lots of great sex, they continued on their horny insecure complex. It was really tiring so I don’t do it anymore. Yall are beyond hope. Sex will not fix you!

I’d say that isn’t a sex strike, I was doing my loved ones a favor, they didn’t appreciate it, so I stopped. That is the logic of a strike though. The difference between me and you (probably) is I’m asexual. I’m not getting sexually frustrated over it. If you still want the dick on your sex strike, it’ll be difficult. People are asking me how to stop fucking men and I’m just like, if you’re asking me this question, I can’t help you much.

Nevertheless, I will try.

So I would say, things have changed for me when I stopped fucking. Not much has changed for the men attracted to me. I was fucking like 0.00005% of them who wanted it and now I’m fucking 0%.

During my life I have rejected a lot of incels. And kinda shy guys who had incel-like qualities at risk of going full incel on a bad day. Their misogyny seems accelerated by rejection.

I’ve seen men go from:

“I’m such a soft boi uwu, men are so toxic, I can’t stand to make male friends, women are so much better than men, it’s so easy to talk to you” to “all women are bitches who hate nice guys and only want big muscled alpha male Chads with giant dongs who will cheat on her” in about 5 seconds.

I mean, never mind that I’m not a woman, they are incapable of seeing me as anything else, and we’re talking about them.

It might make some intuitive sense we can flip the split by applying more rejection. I’ve seen many larval incels snatch defeat from the jaws of victory when it comes to the women in their lives. What if we can help them look at how they sabotage themselves? They want sex, they’d get more if they didn’t act like assholes, this is very logical. Like maybe sex strike will help them reflect on their behavior. There might be a few rare cases of this, but mostly this possibility isn’t real. Most of them are just ticking time bombs.

The dramatic split from love to hate that seems so real is just manipulative. They explode to punish you for saying no. It’s not a real change of heart towards you or women. In the case of exceptions, no telling if you have any effect on their internal experience.

Real strikes don’t cause any reflection on the part of the bosses. It’s a power struggle and a contract negotiation. Bosses are always better set up for battles of attrition, and so are men. This is because men on average earn more, own more, and have more institutional power. If you earn more, own more, and have more institutional power than the men in your life, and so you are more positioned to make a difference this way… stop looking at 4B and provide your spare room to a victim of domestic violence.

This is no time to worry about a few genuine nice guys falling through the cracks. When you trust a man, you aren’t making this decision for yourself, you are making it for the kids you can’t abort.

For me, there’s a window with some men, I don’t know yet if he’s just awkward or actually bad. When faced with this, I argue a lot with him. The misogynists want control. Disputing any difference of opinion, challenging his plans, refusing to fuck, he’ll get mad over being “led on”… even if you aren’t dating and promised him nothing. At that point, all cards are on the table, and rejection is easy.

But even if he can withhold impulse long enough to have polite interactions with women, she’s still likely to feel offput and unable to explain why. Yall are mostly doing the strike already if you don’t already know.

I’d love to be wrong, but I honestly don’t expect rejections to make a difference at scale. It’s infinitely better for yourself, I’d guess. But it’s different for me, I’m a no-nut life.